If procrastination is a problem for you, you are not alone. Just yesterday, we found our original, 1986, signed copy of “Procrastinator’s Success Kit,” by Alyce P. Cornyn-Selby, a true, self-created character. Her book turned IFO’s life around.
What a surprise it was to find it again! When you have moved as many times as IFO has, you start to lose track of what books you kept and which ones you saved.
The book is no longer in print, but Amazon lists 36 books from new to highly-used as still available. “The ultimate self-management solution including a step-by-step guide to the trademarked method of reframing behavior,” says Amazon’s review.
“Provocative system that looks at the creative benefits of procrastination and describes eight different characters or styles of procrastination with explanations and solutions for each.”
We saw her in person at a state credit union association convention that year, since we were covering the convention for one of the publications we were writing for at the time. She was highly entertaining and highly convincing as a motivational speaker.
Motivational speakers’ schtick is usually a tale of hardships overcome and Cornyn-Selby has her own: overweight and poor self-image. That was hard to understand, since she was clearly confident and gorgeous.
Here’s what her Speaker’s Bureau says about her: “Alyce isn’t a speech; she’s an event. Alyce Cornyn-Selby, highly acclaimed speaker and nationally recognized master on the subject of sabotage, lead a corporate group to become the most award-winning team of its kind in the country. She maintains a 100 pound weight loss using her trademarked system for beating self-sabotage.”
For IFO, the key takeaway from her approach is that you wouldn’t procrastinate if you didn’t get some benefit from it. Hard to believe, eh? Don’t we just hate that we procrastinate? Isn’t it just awful?
Well, no, C-S explains. Benefits include: “to add a little drama to life, to drive people away, or to be rescued.” And everybody does it. “We procrastinate because we need to in order to get what we want.”
We are more creative and more productive as we put off doing one thing by doing any number of other things to avoid the first thing. C-S confesses she gets more housework done at tax time than any other time of the year.
Also, you can get rid of people by putting off an important project until the last minute. “Sorry. I’m on deadline.” Boom. You’re all alone, finishing your project. She admits bad things happen due to putting things off – things like going to the doctor to take care of that cough, or flunking out of college – IFO is using her own examples here.
Like IFO, C-S recommends getting serious about your Self, know why you put things off, and decide WHETHER to stop, or go on doing it because the reward outweighs the drawbacks. This is key.
After you figure out the bad procrastinations, C-S offers cute, helpful little check-lists to evaluate yourself. Another cause is perfectionism. You want your project to be done so perfectly you are afraid to tackle it, because you know it WON’T be perfect.
She also talks about self-sabotage, a topic all by itself. Her definition: “When we say we’re going to do something and then we go about making sure that it doesn’t happen.”
Whew! That hurts, eh? Some examples that apply to IFO: something that appears on your “to do” list more than 10 times; setting up a plan and then not doing it. She’s right when she says its easier to recognize this in someone else than in yourself.
Well, what do you think? Can this book help you? Well, then, stop procrastinating and get a copy from Amazon! or check out her home page.